About a week after deciding it was time to get things started we received a call from Matt's Mom. She had gotten a call from her brother about his daughter, who was pregnant and due to some life choices was not going to be able to raise the baby. They knew that Matt and I had always wanted to adopt and were wondering if we would be willing to adopt this beautiful little girl who was due soon...very very soon.
After calling Crystal's parents and chatting about things we decided we wanted a week to pray about it. We didn't need a week. The following day we started calling our family to let them know that we would be adopting a little girl in a couple of weeks.
We hadn't talked to any agency and knew nothing about open adoptions and the few adoption situations we did know about were closed adoptions with no contact. With our daughter's (Samantha) birth family already being family, and the fact that she is the youngest of 4 children, we didn't want anything to be awkward, but we knew we wanted to keep the family relationship that was already there. We don't get to see Sam's birth mother very often due to her life choices, but we have a very open relationship with the rest of her family, we have never met Sam's birth father or anyone from his family.
We love to talk about our adoption story and how this time around we feel like both first timers, as we didn't have paperwork or an agency with Sam's adoption, and second timers.
We would love to help with questions about: Kinship adoptions- when you are related to the birth family
When your child's birth parents have other children and how to maintain a relationship with those children
What if your open adoption relationship is with the extended birth family instead of just the birth parents.
Matt and Crystal
Email us at mattandcrystal@rocketmail.com
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